Sunday, July 18, 2004

Interesting article...

The Family: Discovering the Obvious
Two samples....

There are in fact a variety of nontraditional households. I will limit my comments to that subset now posing the most immediate public challenge: the household self-consciously created in contradistinction to the natural family; the household in which the natural family can only be imitated rather than created; the household now demanding not only recognition of some sort from society at large, but also the guarantee of moral equivalence. I suggest that we call this the “antitraditional” household, both to distinguish it from what has gone before and to capture something of its defiant essence. And since such households can further be divided into two variants, heterosexual and homosexual, I propose that we proceed by examining them in turn.

What this distinction immediately makes clear is something interesting and pretty much unnoticed in today’s furor over gay marriage: that intellectually speaking, at least, the heterosexual variation of the antitraditional household has been steadily losing ground for years now...



Sooner or later, someone is going to ask why, if being gay is cause for celebration, gay boys and men continue to kill themselves at significantly higher rates than do heterosexuals. Sooner or later, someone is going to wonder why, despite society’s open arms, virtually every study of gay mental health shows higher rates of depression, alcoholism, sexual addiction, sexually transmitted diseases, and the rest.

This is the evidence ignored by, for example, judges who place children in gay-headed households. It is also the evidence ignored by everyone who argues that homosexuality has nothing to do with sex scandals involving young boys. It is also the evidence that will not go away. The empirical reality of much of gay life contradicts the rhetoric of virtual normality; and eventually, it seems safe to predict, the twain shall meet....



2 Comments:

Blogger Todd said...

Peace, Quenta.

What are we to make of the statistics of children in the foster care system? Between original abuse in largely heterosexual households, state institutions, and in foster homes, the abuse rate is estimated at 75 to 90 percent. Nobody has ever done a study of children of gay parents. Higher abuse rates are suspected, but not known. If people were genuinely concerned about children's welfare instead of grinding the gay ax, they would have been promoting adoption much more agressively, especially the adoption of older children. As it is, I suspect the "bad gay parent" is little more than a boogeyman to scare the fence-sitters, rather than a real concern. But if you can prove me wrong, I invite it. Tell me y'all adopted a child today.

9:29 PM  
Blogger Nârwen said...

I believe that children belong with married parents. I'm single.

10:10 AM  

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